If I’m burnt out and irritable I don’t communicate well. Most often than not it evolves into an emotional cycle that ends up affecting every aspect of my day and my immediate relationships.

Partners can be great but they’re typically not mind readers. And worse, how can they be helpful if we aren’t taking care of ourselves enough to communicate our own needs?

In the early days of dating or even traditional courtship (Filipina talking here ) we sometimes expect the man to go above and beyond – ie. offer us everything we want but get mad when they can’t read our minds LOL. 

It takes two in a marriage but sometimes we moms expect the world (as we should) without verbalizing what we need. 

After multiple children, I’ve just learned to blurt out what I need for survival/mental health but even that isn’t sustainable.

Today I’m reminding myself and sharing my reminder: We are in a relationship with ourselves. We need to invest in that relationship.

Spending the time to find out what irks us, what helps us feel better and having a go-to list of quick breathers is soo soo helpful!

My development through motherhood is really identifying what I really want and need then learning to vocalize that in a way that is helpful for my family and my partner.

And I can’t get to that stage without taking care of myself first. 

I’ll share more in the coming weeks on how I started my deep dive into self-discovery to determine what I need in my role of being a mom.